I spent over twenty years working as both an FBI undercover and counterintelligence agent.
My job was to identify foreign spies who were operating in the United States, find out what they were stealing and stop them, assess whether they possessed the type of information the U.S. needed, and if they did, find ways to persuade them to work for our government.
I share the lessons I learned about surviving in an environment of deception, hostility, and fear.
Coincidentally, these same conditions also exist in business and life.
If you are going to survive in today’s world, you will need to learn how to navigate through the smoke and mirrors that create confusion in investments, marketing, and relationships.
The first person we need to lead is ourselves. We do this by leading with personal strength rather than a plan. Powerful leaders are empowered from within.
Plans fail because people are not predictable and we have very little control over our environment. Survival depends upon flexibility, breaking through barriers, and accepting new challenges.
Complacency will lead to extinction.
FBI defensive tactics trained us to always lead with our strong side. I’m right-handed and both my right hand and leg are stronger than my left. We were taught us that if we lead with our strong side, it’s easier to stay on balance when confronted with the unknown and we’re better poised to react in a way that could save our life.
We are more vulnerable when we’re approached from a weakness or blind spot.
Leading From Strength
Instead of sending us to the gym everyday to build up the muscles on our weak side, we spent our time learning how to lead most efficiently from our place of strength. This meant that we had to know our weaknesses and manage them as best we could while relying upon our strengths for survival.
Complacency is toxic because it is a stealth attitude that creeps up on us without our awareness. It makes us vulnerable because we’ve unconsciously let our guard down and are no longer alert to the nature of threats that surround aspects of business or aspects and life.
When this happens, we’re no longer operating from our center, from that place of strength that gives us balance. Complacency can often be a subconscious need to re-evaluate our goals, mission, or vision.
Here are three ways to prevent you from becoming complacent in your business, leadership role, and life:
1. Create an Inner Circle
We all have an inner circle of close friends, family, and others we interact with on a regular basis. To maximize their impact on your life, ask yourself whether they are the right people with whom you want closer interaction.
By forging your inner circle with intention, you can collect people who reflect back your full potential.
- Collect people who see the best in you and believe in your dreams for yourself.
- Eliminate people who take advantage of your generous nature.
- Discard those who ask for more than their fair share.
- Protect yourself and fill your life with people whose values match your own.
- Surround yourself with people who accept your gifts, in return.
2. Find a Mentor
There are few people more valuable than mentors. They should be inspirational; more importantly, they need to be able to see and accept you for who you really are.
They need to encourage you to keep charging ahead, keep chasing your dreams, and keep making plans.
Mentoring fills us with hope.
Fill in the following sentences:
- A great mentor in my life is ______________________
- I could be a mentor to___________________________
- I am inspired by _______________________________
3. Look for Adventure
Adventure is about taking risks, large and small, and this requires enthusiasm. It means stepping out into the unknown to discover your full potential.
Staying open to new experiences is a daily adventure because you don’t know what you’ll find in those new experiences. Maybe you’ll discover that you want to do something different, that you want to write a mission statement, or have a new vision for your life.
Complacency and adventure cannot co-exist.
Fill in the following sentences:
- It would be fun to _____________________
- I would like to try _____________________
- I would step out of my comfort zone by ___________________
You must learn to lead yourself before you can lead others and this can only happened if you are empowered from within. The world provides enough deception and isolation—don’t worry about being afraid of the unknown. It’s the complacency that will kill you.
When was the last time you thought about the quality of your inner circle? How are you a mentor to others? What was your last adventure?
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LaRae Quy is former FBI Agent and Founder at Your Best Adventure
She helps clients explore the unknown and discover the hidden truth in self & others
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